Q. I received back "not attending" replies to my wedding invitation, and I want to send out invitations to my B list guest. How do I do this without my guest knowing that they were on the "B" list?
A. The best way to avoid a guest finding out they were on the B list is to immediately send out your B list invites as soon as you get a "not attending" reply. Guests who will not be attending will usually answer first, and this allows the B list guest invite to be sent out asap. This way, they will never know that weren't A listed.